I still can’t entirely believe it when men write these sorts of things. I’ve seen it too often that they know what to say, know what we desperately need to hear, know the things that we would trade twenty years off of our lives to hear them say, and they can fake them like Oscar-winning actors.
If this is sincere, it’s about time:
Men are expected to be ‘strong silent types’ — and it’s breaking them, says Henry Rollins
But again, I’ve lived a little too long, and I’ve just seen it faked too often. Haven’t we all? Louis CK made a career out of it, playing the Woke White Guy on stage while he assaulted and degraded hundreds of women and ruined as many careers. And women as a whole have been so starved, so deathly starved, so fucking panicked and desperate, for any signs of awareness from these creatures that we let into our bodies and push out of our bodies at risk to our very lives, that we have been willing to believe them whenever they get anywhere near these revelations.
And they know it. Oh, don’t they know it. They find our apocalyptic desperation for them to stop killing, raping, and degrading us funny, and a convenient way to manipulate us into opening our minds, hearts, and legs. They are the most calculated, cold-hearted creatures in the world about this crap.
If this is sincere, it is about time. That is the most I can say about it — and always with the “if” in front. This is why I will not fall over them when they say these things, no matter how sincere they seem nor how much I would like to believe them when they say it. I find that desperate thirst within myself simply too sad, its existence too draining and depressing, to do so.
Moreover, if these men are sincere, they will not need me falling all over them and praising them to speak this truth, because they will understand that speaking it is in their own best interest. If they need to be fawned over by women for saying it, they’re only saying it for the fawning and the home-cooked meals and pussy that will come with it, and not because they actually believe it.
If Henry Rollins, Jared Sexton, and Tomas Chamurro-Premuzic are the breath of fresh air that they purport to be, the only way to keep them fresh will be to nod at their revelations and move on. No fawning, no applause (from us anyway), and no pussy. That will be the acid test of whether they really mean this shit, if they can accept and value the esteem of a woman who keeps her clothes on. Period.
Basically, there can be two fundamental reasons why men would have finally started addressing this shit:
- Their own mental and emotional health as human beings (“White American males — mostly middle-age — accounted for 70% of suicides in 2017”), or
- They’ll get pussy.
If they stop saying this stuff because #2 doesn’t start rolling in, they don’t care about #1 either. So while I hate to say it ladies, the only way we can make sure that #1 is at the foundation of men’s sudden willingness to talk about this stuff openly is to withhold #2.
Of spending time with his father as his life slipped away in a hospital bed, Sexton describes the nurses: “Everywhere I looked were women doing the heavy work for men who needed them desperately and without fail.”
I wonder how many men will read this article, then turn seething to their wives and girlfriends, sisters and mothers, and snarl in their faces, “SEE?! SEE?! YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT IT’S IS LIKE! WHY AREN’T YOU DOING ANYTHING ABOUT IT?!”
When the exact problem is that they always expect us to do something about their feelings, because they are too shit-scared to do so.
Expecting women to feel your feelings for you is the problem, dude. Walk away, go into a room by yourself, and think about this shit for a long, long time. Years. Actually, for the rest of your life. You don’t get a break from this any more than women get a break from thinking about our lives in this culture. Contemplating your place in the human race is the business of life, so STFU and do it. And don’t for one second rant over why “dem feminists” aren’t doing it for you.
Angrily demanding that women tend to your feelings so you don’t have to will only make the problem worse, because it is the problem.
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