Seriously, why should I go to any private space with a man if I will have zero legal recourse if the situation turns forceful? I’m sure I’ll be back to dating men soon — I’m not the Ashkenazi Mike Pence. But all men should consider how unfair it is that women have to put their lives on the line every time they want to go on a date. You should consider that our courts and pundits and parents admonish women for having the audacity to get themselves raped without setting up a camcorder first, even as assailants seek out their daughters.
The first sentence of that paragraph is all you really need to read, though.
Seriously, why should I go to any private space with a man if I will have zero legal recourse if the situation turns forceful?
It all boils down to this:
Listen, it’s not that I think you’re a predator — I know most of you aren’t. I think you happen to have been born into a patriarchal society that you’ve done little to dismantle, and that’s just not really lighting my fire anymore.
It’s just not really lighting my fire. It never did. Being nice enough to not make the most of the fact that you can break my neck once I’m naked with you and no court in the world will send you to jail for more than two seconds, while doing nothing to dismantle that system, is just not enough. It never was.
How is anyone supposed to fall in love with one of you people[…]? You at-worst-violent-sex-criminals, at-best-gormless-handmaidens-to-the-patriarchy. I am certainly not envious of queer women, who endure hatred and discrimination because of who they are. But it’s inconvenient to be attracted pretty much exclusively to the gender responsible for, well, one example that comes to mind is almost every murder.
Um … yeah. Would that it were not the case, but it is. Although I’d quibble that the statistics on women who end up at the ER or the morgue because of their male intimate partners count as “hatred and discrimination” as much as any homophobic violence, thanks — something that we’re apparently not supposed to say anymore since the world decided that heterosexual women are privileged under patriarchy, which is a huge, smelly crock of shit.
Hit me up after you’ve had a good think about what you’ve done wrong and have a plan to make things better.
Focus on the last part: and have a plan to make things better.
Until then, no.
And just to make sure: if you’re going to act woke, you’d better not be lying about it. If your woke feminist ally stuff is an act, I can tell.
Fire and Air 